I'm so sorry to see fellow bloggers leaving blogland because of issues with others! You will be missed and let me know if you ever decide to come back to blogging because you know i would love to be reading posts from you and supporting your journey again.
This has definitely given me thought as to why i blog. I blog for me, i do love knowing that other people enjoy my pictures etc. but when it comes down to it, it's definitely therapeutic for me.
I love reading other blogs but lately they have be laced with tension.
Hopefully i will continue to enjoy my blogging and i hope blogland goes back to being a supportive community and not a hit list.
I don't want to have to be one of the blogs that leave.
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:( that's sad. don't quit!
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I know some of the ones I liked to read are gone now too. I think allot of people don't blog for themselves. I have to remind myself that my blog is for me ultimately and for others to enjoy if they want to. I've gotten comments in the past about too many food pictures or not enough weight related posts, but I figure don't read them then. My life is about more than just weight and it says in my description! I hope that people keep blogging their own style and I hope you don't leave :-)
I have noticed that A LOT lately and it is so discouraging! I have been lucky (knock on wood) to not be targeted by any angry person or anonymouse
I just wish that if someone had an issue with a blog that they would just unfollow them instead of flaming stuff at them in comments. Just sad...
I am apparently out of touch or oblivious. I know have to run off and see if all my faves are still out there.
I totally agree, suzi.
I haven't seen a lot of people leaving. I must have missed something (which is okay by me). There are a couple missing ones that I am worried about, though.
Just like forums, the blog world will have its dust ups and then settle down.
I'm not sure who is leaving lately..I know some of my favorite blogs at the end of my list are logging up weeks and months of being gone..I keep them on there as a little vigil and hope they will come back. I really think about what I comment on people's blogs. Wished everyone did. Hope things are ok with you suzi you would be missed, but then everyone I read would be missed.
Hi, I am new here I was just browsing through weight/fitness blogs. Love to meet others that I can relate to :)I am now following you. I know what you mean, some people can leave some pretty negative comments and it is so sad that they end up leaving. Please feel free to pop by my blog. I'd love a new follower!
http://losingoverhalfofme.blogspot.com/
I know who you're talking about, Suzi, and I'm sorry to see her leave, too. Expecially under the circumstances.
This wasn't a negative comment or two--she was subjected to outright threats and bullying.
Blogging can provide many things, but abuse iought not to be one of them.
I hope she changes her mind and comes back on when the sting fades.
I considered writing a post, too, but haven't quite figures out what yet.
Deb
Suzi - you have me worried now. Email me & let me know. I have a feeling I know who it is.
ke11ny@aol.com
I know suzi, it blows that JM has decided to call it a day in blog-land...who is this allan geezer who has caused her so much grief anyway? And what is his problem?
Jeez, i mean if you don't agree with someone's post then state your case in a comment and move on (or just ignore it), why has it become something huge for this guy that he needs to issue threats and put-downs.
There are 2 sides to every story. I think sometimes people come on here and get overly sensitive. We all need to just write our blogs and help each other out. Sometimes we have to say things to point out where people might think a little about what they are writing. That can be done without provoking people.
Part of this journey is being willing to stand up for yourself and putting your health first. No one is going to get in my way of my goals. I can block anyone if I don't like them. Just like in real life, some people you get, others you don't. Doesn't necessarily mean that either person is wrong or bad.
I don't know what blogs you are referring to, but blogging is not for the hypersensitive unless they totally block comments/emailing. There are so many weirdos, nutjobs, and plain old mean-mean-sadistic people out there, that there is bound to be some nastiness at some point. I've had friends literally cyberstalked into retreating. Scary.
Blogging is not for wimps. Not if one ever voices an opinion. Someoone will disagree.
And I've also known people so sensitive that everything upsets them and they take everything the freaking wrong way. No dealing with those either.
BUT..I hate flaming. I hate unnecessary roughness.
I blog for me. It's my accountability. But I also blog for SUPPORT...I'm in blogland to see others on similar journeys to keep me going. I don't wanna bring anyone down. If a blogger becomes irritating from constant whining or do-nothing martyrism, I just don't read them.
For me, the meanies can go take a hike and leave my playground. I want to support otehrs and be supported. I want to do it my way. If it's not your way, then tolerate me or just go away.
But let's not fight. :D
That's my philosophy. And I hope the bloggers who left do better away from blogging. Some people don't do well with blogs and should leave for their well-being. Some thrive in this environment.
And the meanies and crazies and resentful and bitter will always exist. We just cross our fingers they don't find us. :D
The sad part is that they already have.
Thanks Suzi, maybe I need to start a private blog and invite supportive, smart and interesting blogger. With good recipes, like you. I'm not too sensitive, everyone, and I could care less what this person says about others. But don't attack me for not followng your plan.
Sign me up :)
I do not know the blog you are talking about, but I like you blog for me. I love it when people comment and offer advice, but this is for me. I put my thoughts and problems with my weight out there and sometimes I get a remark that bothers me. I just take it with a grain of salt and go on. I really enjoy your blog and your pictures so you stick around...
I love your blog Suzi I would never want to see you leave. You are truly one of the sweetest bloggers here. *hugs*
I really miss our fellow Canadian blogger from Windsor. It is sad when people are bullied out of blogging.
Indeed!!
(((suzi))) you are awesome don't leave... you are so supportive and wonderful and just don't read the haters and mud slingers
I don't know who left, I have been out of it the last few days but you inspire me and I do it also for me you helped me to see that
thank you Suzi
I'm more practical in nature, I guess.
I wouldn't let any blogger chase me off from doing something that is helping me. Why give a stranger that kind of power?
If I find someone with a not-so-great or in-tune attitude, I simply stop posting on their blog.
Mostly, though, we have to be patient with people and allow them the opportunity to explain or apologize. That is because a LOT (not at all intended) can be read into the written word. Of course, we also then have to be willing to accept the explanation and/or apology, and let bygones be bygones.
I'm not sure what incident you refer to, but please don't let someone else's attitude chase you away, especially if blogging is helpful to you in your journey!
As for the bloggers who've left, whoever they may be, my attitude is simple. When someone leaves, I look at it as THEIR decision, every bit as much as it is MY decision, and mine alone, what goes into my mouth.
I can blame the baker for making the chocolate cake, or the server for bringing it to me ... my girlfriend for recommending it so highly and tempting me, etc. but ultimately, the responsibility for eating it falls to me.
So it is with bloggers who leave. That is their decision. If they don't like what someone blogs, don't read/visit/comment on that person's blog. If that offensive person posts commentary on our own blog, we have all sorts of options: simply ignore it, delete it, or screen and not accept it for publication ...
Lots of options from which to choose, including quitting Blogland entirely. That is a choice too.
When a person picks that path, all you can do is wish them well, and move on. They may/may not come back under a new identity, but regardless, there are always other people from which to learn and with whom to share, right?!
xxox
I'm more practical in nature, I guess.
I wouldn't let any blogger chase me off from doing something that is helping me. Why give a stranger that kind of power?
If I find someone with a not-so-great or in-tune attitude, I simply stop posting on their blog.
Mostly, though, we have to be patient with people and allow them the opportunity to explain or apologize. That is because a LOT (not at all intended) can be read into the written word. Of course, we also then have to be willing to accept the explanation and/or apology, and let bygones be bygones.
I'm not sure what incident you refer to, but please don't let someone else's attitude chase you away, especially if blogging is helpful to you in your journey!
As for the bloggers who've left, whoever they may be, my attitude is simple. When someone leaves, I look at it as THEIR decision, every bit as much as it is MY decision, and mine alone, what goes into my mouth.
I can blame the baker for making the chocolate cake, or the server for bringing it to me ... my girlfriend for recommending it so highly and tempting me, etc. but ultimately, the responsibility for eating it falls to me.
So it is with bloggers who leave. That is their decision. If they don't like what someone blogs, don't read/visit/comment on that person's blog. If that offensive person posts commentary on our own blog, we have all sorts of options: simply ignore it, delete it, or screen and not accept it for publication ...
Lots of options from which to choose, including quitting Blogland entirely. That is a choice too.
When a person picks that path, all you can do is wish them well, and move on. They may/may not come back under a new identity, but regardless, there are always other people from which to learn and with whom to share, right?!
xxox
Although it may be a little inconvenient, I review all comments before they are posted on my site, do to an inappropriate comment that was put on my blog. So that is an option.
I think we all blog for ourselves, first. I love your blog and all the pictures. I am not sure where you find the time. But, nicely done. Have a good weekend!
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